I count my blessings after spending nearly two weeks with my own father visiting us here in Texas. Six weeks ago he had hip replacement surgery and to see him use a cane to greet us in the airport helped me realize how precious our time together is to me. His hair is a shiny silver but it can’t outshine the twinkle in his eye or the smile on his face when he is participating with his grandchildren. And oh, does he have a soft spot for Miss Kira. Now that he’s home in Michigan we are missing his happiness, his laughter, and his contagious, outgoing friendliness. He told me he likes his life simple and he has one goal for each day, “to make a new friend”. And he does his best to make everyone he meets smile and laugh.
I believe my own husband is a role model father and my vote is the only one he needs for it to be true. He has consumed the bible teachings about fatherhood for all the days he’s had the privilege to hear little ones say, “Dad!” The learning from the bible doesn’t just stay in his mind, it enters his heart, his words, his hands and his feet. I am so grateful for the kind of dad he is to our children.
We are observing the transformation of our eldest son as he approaches his upcoming role as “husband”. He’s ready. I experience sympathy when I watch him say good-night to Kelli and they have to part ways. He just doesn’t want to say good-bye anymore. He is ready for them to be one. And they talk about babies easily and eagerly. They explained to Kira she will be an Aunt, which she only understood as “I’m going to be an Aunt” and so she tells everyone. We then hurry to explain they have to get married first and she’s not actually becoming an aunt yet. I can barely process the reality of my own child becoming a husband and eagerly anticipating the role of father. “Some day” came so quickly.
When we began Kirabo Seeds we refused to open our own home without identifying a male role model to lead the children. Robert joined us first and Kenny was quick to follow. Occasionally George Lwanga joins our family time. They have all been intentional with leading the boys to understand how a man leads gently, lovingly, diligently and in reverence to God. I’m truly in awe of how God provided father figures to the children at Kirabo Seeds. Our model for orphan care wouldn’t be effective or possible without father figures. Thank you Robert and Kenny for devoting your lives to serve God by raising these twelve boys and five girls in our home. Certainly this needs to be a great Father’s day for you.
Soon, the children at Kirabo Seeds are going to receive another fatherly role model. With the arrival of Darren and Mary Beth they will have an inside look at how a Christian marriage is established and maintained. I thank God for giving the children an opportunity to learn about a healthy marriage. I believe this will help guide them all towards healthy long lasting marriages in their futures. As orphaned children I am astonished by how carefully and perfectly God provided a family for them to grow up and learn about life so they can step into their own lives and live in a way that pleases God and brings him glory.
Among all my gratitude for the fathers I experience in my life I sit here with intense heart ache over the countless children who can’t honestly say “Happy Father’s Day” to anyone. I believe through Kirabo Seeds I am participating in making a difference in children’s lives but I honestly wish I could affect more change. If I could I would fight hard to shift our human nature to get the dead beat dads back into the responsibilities of fatherhood. I have a simple belief system and at the foundation of what God has taught me it is simply that children NEED a father. So I end my Father’s day message with a plea to all who read, say a prayer for the children who are without fathers and ask God to provide a father figure to every child, every where. With God, ANYTHING is possible.