The children have had some time to recover and reflect on the loss of their brother Boniface. As Bonny lay in his hospital bed suffering Robert asked him, “son, when you are well what do you want to go do? And he answered, “Uncle I want to go to the beach!” Well it seemed only right to arrange to send the whole family to the beach in his honor. Of course they ate cake and drank soda! After a burial and long days of school it was a great relief for all to be able to have some fun and celebrate life.
I received an email from Kenny yesterday that is a collective project from the children to help me understand how they are feeling after losing their brother. I loved it and heaved a great sigh of relief after reading it. They are feeling it and experiencing their grief while making sense of God’s hand on our lives. I decided I wanted to share the letter with everyone here so you too and hear from the mouths of babes how they are walking with God through their loss.
Dear Daddy Craig and Mama Tonya,
We could not write individually so we are emailing as a family to you about how much we felt for losing our brother Boniface. We are a family here at the Kirabo Seeds home and whoever falls sick it feels that all of us fall sick. That’s why whenever one of us is sick we hold hands together with our aunties and uncles and cry to God to come in and heal.
When we lost our sweet brother we felt like it was more than a shock. We could not believe it because it was such a little time of illness so he wasn’t able to say bye to us. We had to pray to God when he was taken to hospital but our surprise his first day at the hospital he did not make it.
It was really a sad time for us to see Boniface being put in the wooden trapezoid shape like box being rolled over and over, that’s when we could not stop shedding tears for we knew now it was the reality that our brother was going for good physically. At first maybe we tried to be mad trying to fake in our hearts that maybe he could be a sleep but it was more worse when we saw him being put down in the ground, we felt much fear and could not believe that our brother was leaving us.
The kids thank so much all the sponsors who have prayed for them to be strengthened in God for what happened and they know that God will always comfort them. The kids thanked the uncles and aunties who have always taught them words of faith, hope and joy and most of all heart strengthening devotion lessons.
But Mama, most of the young kids did not know what was happening. Marvin said Boniface was sleeping. Lawrence still asks when Boniface will come home, where did he go? Lydia and Ryan repeat what others say but don’t understand it. But the older kids are hurting, especially Ronnie. The day after the burial the children went back home in their routine. We give them words of hope, strength and joy so they are really showing normal behavior now.
This letter is on behalf of all the kids: Fred, Musa, Dickson, Peter, Daniel, Paul, Denis, Ronald, Angela, Christine, Lydia, Victoria, Ryan, desire, Lawrence, Marvin and seer Rhonah …though she knows nothing. (but her smiles are healing!)
There were individual responses from each child, but I’ll save those personal perspectives to send to their sponsors.