The rains gave up after a week of dousing and we had a blue sky, puffy clouds, breeze in the trees sort of perfect day. The boys cleared off the outdoor table, hauled down all the settings, and we enjoyed a grilled dinner under the canopy of the trees. Somehow the conversation moved to Dad’s job, as the boys are trying to understand what it is he does at work. He is in Human Resources, and to simplify he said he is responsible for developing and maintaining good leadership in the company.
Donny asked, “what exactly do you mean when you say leadership?”
Jordan, Mr. ROTC, was quick to step in with the answer:” Motivation. Direction. Purpose.”
We all gaped at him. I certainly would have had to think for a while and talk a lot before getting down to these three correct words. Craig nodded his approval, and said, “yes that is exactly what leadership is except I would add one more element: Example. We can talk about it but if those who follow us don’t see us do what we say, there will be no credibility in our words, and ultimately it won’t have staying power.”
The table was quiet for a moment while the boys absorbed this information. In our family we are old fashioned with our ideas about raising sons. We also go first to the bible and what does it say a good husband and father are supposed to do. That’s where we form our ideas in raising the boys. The husband is the leader of the family. It doesn’t matter how badly the wife wants the job, even if she sabotages it, the job of leadership in the eyes of God is still the husband’s and he will be accountable to God some day for what sort of leader he was to his family. This is a no nonsense subject in our home, and Craig has been an outstanding example to them. More importantly, Jesus is the example of leadership we can all follow.
During the course of dinner the conversations moved to different subjects in the boys lives as they shared personal road blocks. Each time the answer to the dilemma at hand came right back around to leadership. It was at least four times I was able to ask Jordan, “tell me again the definition of leadership?”
Motivation. Direction. Purpose. Example.