Kira is becoming a drama darling. She’s practicing all sorts of social interactions. For example, she’ll throw herself down on the floor at some imaginary injustice, and then I’ll frown, so she comes over and hugs me and says, “I sorry”. She will practice this skit several times in a row, until her attention is snagged by something else to do, like push her baby in a stroller around the house. She has to have a purse hanging on the stoller handle before they go on their way. She’s a little mama. She has a new favorite saying, “Oh no, what happened?” I must say that a lot. She’s so bossy with our dog Lucy. When we leave through the back door, she says, “Lucy Come” if we are going for a walk, or “Lucy Stay” if we are going in the car. The funny thing is, Lucy obeys her because she says it firmly with great authority.
Kira is social so going ‘bye bye’ is always a good idea. Andie takes her to the stables several mornings a week so Kira can see the horses. Andie is a riding instructor, and has a horse out there and she helps me with Kira as well as Kirabo Seeds. Kira loves to feed the horses carrots. And she has learned how to call a horse by clucking. We bought her special mud boots for walking around the soggy stables and there are horses on them. Of course. She also got a horse figure with a rider that looks suspiciously like me for her birthday. She sleeps with it. And she says, “where’s mama?” while she’s searching for the rider. Craig says I am ambushing him by creating this love of horses at such a young age. Guilty.
She is crazy about her brothers. She asks for each of them all day while they are in school, and when they come through the back door, she leaps into their arms. Of course the boys love this attention. She can do no wrong in their eyes. They are all so helpful with keeping an eye on her for me. It makes me so happy to see her lay her head on their shoulders and draw so much security and comfort from her relationship with them. What amazes me most is how each of them has enormous affection for her and tolerates her baby antics/tantrums without getting frustrated with her. They are in training to be excellent fathers and husbands because now they know more about babies than most boys. It is satisfying to see them know exactly what to do for her. Each one of them knows about feeding her, bathing, entertaining, keeping her safe, changing diapers, and bedtime. And she accepts any of these scenarios from a brother as equally as if it were me or Craig.
What we have seen develop this year of having a baby girl in our family is the whole family has embraced this new responsibility. It is not in any way only “mom’s job” to take care of Kira. It is a beautiful thing to see how much the boys love her and how devoted they are to helping her develop. And seeing Craig have a Daddy’s girl should make me a little jealous, but I’m just more in love with them both.
The other day when I picked Kevin up at school to take him to the dentist, Kira saw him far down the hallway and she ran and jumped into his arms. He held her all the way to the car. He was so proud to have her in his arms in his school that he had a slight strut as he walked. I heard the girls all coo, “oh she’s so cute”. I know how boys are, of course Kevin calculated this into his decision to show what a great big brother he is to his whole school. Mostly I was impressed that he wasn’t too cool to be seen with the two girls he live with at home. I like his self confidence.
The other day when it was time to get dressed, Kira pulled out her Baylor cheerleading outfit and said, “Donny”. Jack has taught her to answer the question “what does a bear say?” and she says, “ayyyyy, sick ‘em” as she makes a bear claw swipe to rip out the heart of the opponent. I’m going to let her wear that dress today so I can text a photo to Donny. He’s immersed in midterm exams and I hope that makes him smile. He too has a tender soft spot for his baby sister. The two of them are inseparable when he is in the house. She drags him by the hand over to the piano and sings and plays alongside. She snuggles him on the couch and won’t share him with any of us. We all miss that guy. He’s got a job now with the university, he’s busy with church activities, doing very well in his classes, and going on a mission trip for his spring break. He’s got a job with Pine Cove for the first six weeks of his summer. I’m beginning to wonder when I’ll see him next. Craig likes to remind me he’s got to follow his own way. It’s just so hard to miss him, but at the same time, it’s great to know how happy he is, and that he is on his way towards reaching his goals. And that is what we want as parents. I just don’t think mamas acknowledge that when they go towards their goals, it means they go farther away from us. Ouch. So I count my blessings that I have a little one in the house and she’s not going anywhere for a long time. I cannot even imagine the panic I would be feeling now if we only had Donny and Jordan in our family, as Jordan is anticipating his senior year. I couldn’t possibly be ready for an empty nest so soon.
P.S. for all the mom’s who struggle with their children’s messy closets here is my tried and true solution: Children wear a fraction of their clothes, only their very favorites. When those come through the laundry, keep them, hide them, and they will surely come complain. So I say, “it must be time to clean up that mess in your closet and then you’ll find them .” This is true, because when the mess is clean they will find their favorites in my arms as I inspect their cleaning job. Kids always need a motivating factor to do a job they would rather avoid. Truthfully, so do adults.