Our official American adoption of Kira is not yet complete. In Uganda we are awarded “custody with intent to adopt in the US”. This is because the law in Uganda states you must live in Uganda for three years with the child before you are able to adopt. Rather than changing the law they got around it by giving custody with intent to adopt in our country. Kira has a Ugandan passport and a US citizen card, but I cannot get her a passport until she is legally adopted. My goal has been to have a passport for her before we go to Uganda in June only so that our travels will go smoothly. Especially so we can avoid the scenario of some airport worker who feels compelled to swing his authority around by yanking us into a holding room so he can understand what we’ve spent years working to achieve. We have a lawyer here who has been working on our case since we first got custody from the court in Uganda just days before Christmas, and hopefully we are weeks away from having our court date to finalize.
Our country requires us to hire a lawyer to represent Kira. This new person has to inspect our case to make sure the child is best served in the new home. This was a chunk of money out of our pocket that we already paid someone in Uganda to do. Yes I am shaking my head and wishing government hands would resist reaching into our pockets. Honestly, the child was abandoned into a dangerous situation on the day she was born. Who exactly thinks she should return there? Rather than work myself into an angry fit, I’ll finish explaining the experience with the new lawyer.
So it was arranged to meet at our house for this new lawyer to decide if she is going to approve us as fit parents for Kira. (I hope you detect my sarcasm.) First of all, I will say she, as a person, was delightful and I’d enjoy folding her into my circle of friends. My problems are not centered on her, but the role she played for this process. She had no knowledge of how adoption proceeds with our agency or with Uganda, so I had to explain to her how we got Kira. We felt this meeting was just to check the box and entirely unnecessary since we went through the rigors already so many times to be approved to raise her. But she was just fresh out of law school and took her position so seriously that we endured questions that might have raised our defenses. I kept it light and humorous but I was annoyed that we had to jump through hoops again. She asked us unnecessary questions about our moving history and the separation from grandparents that would possibly isolate us. These questions arose because she couldn’t find anything in our case that was peculiar so she tried to make something up. I wished she had just said, “done” and signed off, which she eventually did.
Our lawyer is doing a fantastic job with our adoption, and setting up our new will, so if anyone out there in the Houston area is going to be in need of a family lawyer, I hope you will ask me for her contact information. I highly recommend someone with such integrity.
I hope that very soon I can post a photo of us with the judge who officially grants Kira American citizenship. Until then I am confident that our lawyer is moving it quickly and we have no worries. I am so ready to have all of the official adoption business behind us. This process has been a never ending ordeal.