I’m going to talk about Jack again. Before I go on, I hope you are not rolling your eyes back and preparing for me to extol on the virtues of my children. While I appreciate the uniqueness of my boys I also maintain an odd, objective perspective about them. I am not a mom who is quick to take credit for the way they’ve turned out. Really. If anything, I am quite sure they are moving forward nicely in spite of me.
To convince you of Jack’s special brand of darling I’ll share a quip he made this morning: We were in the kitchen mixing up some quick bread before school, easily talking about the weekend and the week ahead. Quite abruptly he told me, “the nail clippers daddy gave me don’t work, I can’t open them.” Well, I had been cleaning his desk while he wiped the sleep from his eyes, and I noticed the clippers were shrink wrapped so I told him, “I pulled the plastic off them this morning.” Then he gasped in a way that was more than relieved, “Oh, gosh, I am sooo going to need a wife when I grow up.” — If that doesn’t make you smile I have to guess you are either a grouch or in a very bad mood. He is indeed cute.
Donny and I had a conversation attempting to dissect exactly how and why this boy arrived with such likable characteristics, working from the assumption he was first uniquely designed by God. He’s always happy, energetic, outgoing, optimistic, affectionate, prepared, hard working, funny, sensitive and tenderhearted. The brothers would all be jealous but they can’t help but like the kid too much. When he was a young toddler and preschooler his teachers would always pull me aside once they got to know him and say, “he is one amazing little boy!”, but always in a clandestine tone of voice so as not to let the other students or parents know they thought so. I let each one of them think they were the first to discover him. But their praise became part of a growing collection, an endless rerun.
I told Donny it’s as if Jack has all the qualities of his three brothers all wrapped into one boy. He looked at me with a “eureka” expression. That’s it. I complimented Donny because he and his brothers have invested themselves into loving him and helping him so that Jack wants to be like each of them. Then Donny was eager to know which qualities I thought he had given Jack (sneaking a compliment is what he was doing) So we tried to sort out the gifts each boy has given Jack:
- Donny is outgoing, social, funny, boiserous, passionately expressive, musical, an eager student, all around athletic, devoted to bible study
- Jordan is confident enough to have his own sense of fashion style, funny, clownish, extremely loyal to his friends, quiet, private and immersed in the church programs for youth, original
- Kevin is smart, always learning for fun, expressive with words, competitive, a voracious reader, compassionate with animals, the tennis role model, organized with his school work, an exemplary student with his church life group bible study
Being the fourth LaTorre boy has had its fringe benefits for Jack and fortunately not only is he secure, but he knows how well loved he is by his brothers. I sincerely have to believe any boy who gets to be fourth in the family and is loved by his older brothers is bound to turn out pretty darn cute. If Craig and I had anything to do with it then I’ll attribute our marriage and the way we have put God over all in our family. Some people have suggested Jack is going to feel ousted from his precious baby status when Kira joins us, but I have to believe he won’t have to budge. There’s enough adoration to go around.