I get this question quite often. And I’m absolutely certain I will encounter this question hourly once Kira is in my presence. The question has up to now found me somewhat off balance, off guard, and unprepared. Shame on me. The last thing I want is for anyone to get the wrong idea. But there was no quick answer on my tongue, and rarely does someone want the answer that takes all day, or perhaps fits within the covers of a book. So, this morning I made an appointment with God, and narrowed down both a short answer and the semi-long one. Perhaps one day the big one will find it’s way between book covers, but for now, the whole story has yet to be uncovered.
It was important to capture the authentic bite sized answer because tonight Craig and I are guests of Honor at his bosses home in the company of all those who work for her, to celebrate our adoption by means of a baby shower. My first reaction is “eek!” and I want to shy away from the attention I get for simply being obedient and following God’s lead towards bringing Kira home to our family. I don’t want credit, but usually this is what I get, “Atta girl! Good for you doing some good in this world. There ought to be more people in this world like you and we’d have less problems.Wow, you’re a better person than I am.” None of those sentiments reconcile with me. Without God’s leading me in this direction I wouldn’t be doing it either. The only thing special about me is maybe my obedience to God’s promptings in my heart and the ability to love deeply that he teaches me day by day. Left to myself I’m nothing to broadcast. I don’t welcome credit for our adoption.
With that said, here are the answers I’ve come up with for the question: Why in the world do you want to adopt now? (I’m 42, one kid in college and three more spaced out from high school to elementary. I’m on the home stretch to “freedom”. To many people it’s CRAZY to start over again.)
The Short Answer: I came to a crossroad in my life and God held up a sign that said “This Way”. So like a sheep I followed the shepherd.
The Long Answer: When we decided no more pregnancies we agreed to talk about adoption if the desire to grow our family ever came up. As the kids got older I was surprised by how much attention teenagers needed. So I was not as free as I thought I would be. I knew if I got distracted by my own ambitions I’d miss important flags indicating their trouble was ahead. I also would not be as intentional with intimate communication with them if I were occupied with a big project. I tried a few things but I found out by the dead ends I reached that it wasn’t another puppy, decorating, gardening, tennis, golf, writing a novel or sharing lunches with the fancy ladies and shopping, nor was it a job. So, while I was on a mission trip in Uganda sitting with an orphan in my lap watching dozens more crawl around I knew what would be next in my life. I would come back and give one of these Ugandan orphans my family, my specialized mothering skills, my love and God’s Word. I knew in a concrete peaceful way this was the path I was meant to take next. Craig jumped on it immediately, as he’d been praying for years that I would want to adopt a girl. We began adoption procedure within weeks of returning from that mission trip. It will likely be one year later that we will be handed our baby Kira. I have to imagine that Robert Frost would smile to watch me go down the path less travelled. I just know for sure it’s the one God pointed to for my life. And I also know I’m in for a great adventure. There’s no looking back, no second thoughts and no big obstacles. The path has been cleared and we’re all walking in that way. I’m learning over and over again that I am never so peaceful in my soul as when I’m giving away the best of me to someone else.